Perhaps they face physical struggles, feelings of isolation, or are immersed in nostalgia from Christmases past. They might simply feel lost in the shuffle.
I wrote this article with two goals: to highlight these concerns and, more importantly, to offer empathetic and practical ways you can help seniors at Christmas.
Because just as it takes a village to raise a child, it also takes a community to care for our elders.
The true spirit of Christmas comes not just from sharing love, warmth, and optimism with the young but equally, if not more, with seniors and our elders.
Take a few moments from your personal celebration to equip the treasured older adults in your life to make their holiday season a touch brighter.
Physical Challenges and Mobility Issues
The Christmas season involves many festive activities – from decorating to shopping and cooking. Of course, these tasks can be a lot of fun, but they become more physically demanding as we age.
This physical demand is incredibly taxing on our elderly loved ones. Once simple tasks like hanging ornaments, exploring the mall, or preparing a Christmas feast might now be more of a challenge for them.
Here are some ways you can offer your support:
- Assist with holiday decorations: Setting up the Christmas tree, hanging wreaths, or mounting lights can be physically demanding for seniors. Volunteer your time to lend a helping hand.
- Offer help with gift shopping: Lugging heavy packages around the mall can be difficult for the elderly. Accompany them on their shopping trips or encourage them to use online shopping methods, providing an opportunity for companionship.
- Wrap their gifts: Plan an afternoon to come over and help them wrap gifts. Bring some cookies! Have them fill out and personalize the tag while you do the wrapping.
- Aid in house cleaning: Cleaning can be strenuous. Offer your help in dusting, vacuuming or tidying up their homes in preparation for holiday gatherings.
- Assist with cooking or baking: Standing for long hours in the kitchen can be hard on their joints, so help them with meal preparations or baking festive treats. You might learn a few new tricks or family recipe secrets!
- Provide transportation: Traveling in icy conditions could be risky. Offer to drive them to holiday events, church services, or family gatherings.
- Include plans for mobility aids. Make sure the environment is accommodating for mobility aids, ensuring the safety and comfort of elderly guests.
- Support with outdoor tasks: Shoveling snow, salting walkways, or cleaning gutters can pose a risk in slippery conditions. Help them with these tasks to ensure their safety, or hire a service to do it automatically.
- Gift them Tools to Help. Consider purchasing and installing non-slip mats or grips in areas prone to getting wet or icy. Ensure they have sturdy and non-slip footwear suitable for snowy conditions.
The colder weather during the winter season can worsen conditions like arthritis for seniors. Plus, older adults face higher health risks since the holidays coincide with flu season.
- Ensure the senior is dressed adequately in warm clothing, particularly outdoors. Consider gloves, earmuffs, and thermal socks to provide additional warmth. Battery-heated apparel is especially beneficial when elders are exposed to prolonged cold.
- Offer to accompany them to the doctor or pharmacy, ensuring they stay on top of medication schedules and flu shots. Check that they aren’t spending their medication budget on extravagant gifts.
- Be vigilant for signs of illness. Holiday gatherings are an excellent opportunity to observe your loved one. If a senior appears to be under the weather, encourage them to rest and, if necessary, seek medical advice.
- Keep their home well-heated yet adequately ventilated to minimize health risks related to cold or stuffy environments.
- Prepare nutritious, immune-boosting meals to help fend off seasonal illnesses. I have specific tips for this in the next section.
- Assist with physical tasks I discussed earlier to maintain and support their health.
- Encourage gentle exercises, if appropriate, to help maintain mobility and joint health.
Dietary Restrictions and Nutrition Concerns
The holiday season is known for tasty, rich foods. However, these celebratory foods may not align with the dietary needs many seniors comply with for their health. Sugary treats and diabetes are a big challenge this time of year.
- Offer to cook or purchase holiday meals that align with the senior’s dietary restrictions, such as low-sodium, low-sugar, or gluten-free options.
- Encourage measured consumption of festive treats while ensuring they maintain regular, healthy nutrition by helping them plan.
- Volunteer to assist them in reading food labels or menus when dining out to verify the suitability of the dishes for their dietary needs.
- Present a thoughtful gift of a festive food basket tailored to their dietary needs. Protein-rich and reduced sugar options are particularly recommended.
- Share the joy of cooking together, creating nutritious holiday dishes that respect their dietary limitations. Sneak in some vegetables when they aren’t looking.
- Get expert help. If needed, arrange a dietitian or nutritionist consultation for the senior to help them navigate the festive eating period.
- Hydration is critical. Encourage seniors to stay hydrated, which can be overlooked during the cold, festive season. They may be less inclined to drink when it isn’t as warm out.
Loneliness and Isolation
Holiday celebrations can intensify normal feelings of loneliness and disconnection among the elderly.
These feelings can become even more impactful for those who have experienced the loss of a spouse or dear friend or are separated by great distances from their family members.
- Arrange regular, socially-distanced, if necessary, visits or set up video calls if physical visits aren’t possible. Teach them to use Facetime or other visual communication tools.
- Involve them in your holiday preparations and activities, from decorating to baking, to keep them engaged. Invite them to the kid’s Christmas program or for an afternoon cookie-baking session.
- Encourage their participation in community holiday events, whether in-person or virtual. Take them to the local park or neighborhoods to see the light displays.
- Make sure they have a way to reach out to friends and neighbors, like a reliable, easy-to-use phone or a laptop computer or tablet with internet access. These tools are essential when they feel isolated.
- Share sentimental stories, mementos, or family traditions to remind them of happy times and connections. Encourage them to reminisce and share their favorite memories and holiday traditions.
- Connect them to local support groups, senior centers, or friendship networks. Groups like these encourage connection with their peers who might be better equipped to support them based on their experiences.
Mental Health Issues
The Christmas season often brings feelings of sadness, especially for those experiencing significant life changes like retirement or health issues. Holiday movies showing only happy endings and families gathering around them exacerbate these feelings.
- Encourage your loved ones to participate in appropriate winter time physical activity and exercise. The link between physical well-being and mental health is a significant one.
- Quietly observe their actions and expressions during holiday events to monitor their mental health. Prompt intervention can make a big difference.
- Introduce them to support groups or hobby clubs specific to their interests—these present easier opportunities to socialize and engage, which promotes a sense of belonging and mental well-being.
- Discuss their sleep hygiene patterns and encourage them to maintain a regular sleep schedule. A well-rested mind is less susceptible to depression and other mental health issues.
- Assist with their medication management if necessary, ensuring adherence to prescribed treatments. Pill organizers and automatic pill dispensers are gift opportunities that may help here.
- Gift them simple cognitive activities like puzzles, reading books, ergonomic gardening tools, and other hobby equipment to keep their brain active and reduce the risk of cognitive decline.
- Discuss their feelings and concerns during those drives to the mall or our exploring the light shows. Let them know they are not alone and their feelings are valid and understood.
- Encourage them to volunteer for a cause close to their heart or life experience. Many organizations seek extra help during the holiday season, providing an opportunity to experience the mental health benefits of volunteering without a long time commitment.
Elderly individuals living on tight budgets may experience financial strain as they try to fit the cost of presents into their budget. Unbudgeted expenses increase significantly this time of year, leading to tough financial sacrifices.
- Help with grocery shopping and food expenses by buying items in bulk to reduce costs. Arrange an anonymous food delivery of basic pantry items through online grocery apps.
- If you have knowledge or experience, offer advice on managing expenses, creating realistic holiday budgets, or helping them navigate financial support systems.
- Tell them it’s okay to say “no” to extravagant gift requests, financial requests from relatives, or even the constant charity calls, letters, and bell ringers seeking donations.
- Encourage them to offer personal gifts such as homemade food or hand-knitted scarves rather than buying expensive retail equivalents.
- Include them in your family’s traditional activities. Make it clear they are your guest, and there is no need to contribute financially.
- Suggest “no-gift” policies or Secret Santa gifting for community and family gift exchanges. Bringing one gift instead of one gift for every person reduces the stress and financial cost of gift-giving. It can be more fun, too.
- If you can, offer to cover a bill that may be pressing during the season, such as heating or electricity.
- Slip an anonymous gift card into their mailbox for their favorite grocery or big box store.
- Give them a ride to family or community events or church services, saving on taxi or public transportation costs.
- Help them make handmade gifts or decorations; it’s cost-effective and can be an enjoyable activity to share.
In today’s fast-paced digital world, activities like online shopping, video calls, or social media can be strenuous for seniors. While some older folks are comfortable with these technologies, others may feel left behind by the digital age.
- Schedule a specific time to teach elderly loved ones how to use their various digital devices. Patience and repetition are the keys to helping them become comfortable and efficient with the technology.
- Write down step-by-step written instructions or record a video guide on their phone that seniors can refer to when using these devices independently.
- Help them choose and install user-friendly apps on their smartphone or tablet that simplify texting, calling, or video chatting. Seek out applications specifically designed with seniors in mind.
- Show them how to set up essential accounts like email, social media, or streaming services. Create a safe list of passwords they can readily refer to when needed.
- Explain the basics of online safety to protect them from scams and phishing attacks. Install security software on their devices for added protection behind the scenes.
- Introduce them to online shopping and help them save their favorite stores as bookmarks. Ensure they know how to use checkout functions securely and set up accounts to monitor order statuses.
- Educate them on the benefits of setting up subscriptions for home delivery of essentials, ensuring they can receive groceries, medications, and other essentials without leaving home.
Overwhelm from Festivities
The busy holiday season, filled with social events, can be stressful for seniors who value a peaceful and structured lifestyle.
- Limit the number and frequency of events: Avoid scheduling too many back-to-back activities or gatherings, which can overwhelm seniors.
- Offer home-based celebrations: Schedule small, intimate celebrations at home with family instead of large parties full of strangers in unfamiliar settings.
- Encourage rest and quiet periods: Ensure that older adults have opportunities for rest and recharging during and between events. Have a quiet room for home events or have intentional lulls in the schedule.
- Customized activities: Plan activities that consider the seniors’ preferences and are appropriate for their abilities to make them feel comfortable and included.
- Consider sensory challenges: Keep noise levels and visual stimuli, such as flashing lights and moving decorations, to a minimum to prevent sensory overload. Try to maintain a serene and quiet environment as much as possible, especially during the festivities.
- Be flexible with schedules: Be ready to adjust plans or cancel activities if the senior seems tired or overwhelmed. Have a backup plan in place.
- Participate with peers: Arrange for each senior to attend activities with a familiar companion or “party buddy.” Knowing they have a peer to interact with can reduce overwhelm and anxiety.
- Communicate intentionally: Always communicate plans well beforehand, allowing seniors to prepare mentally for upcoming festivities. Repeat the plans frequently as needed.
- Ensure their comfort: Constantly observe their comfort levels and ensure they enjoy themselves during the celebration. If not, take immediate steps to ease their discomfort or stress.
Not driving or having reliable access to transportation presents a considerable challenge, especially during holiday celebrations.
They typically depend on public transit or assistance from family members for commuting. This dependence could lead to them feeling inadequate and a bother to others.
- Arrange a shared family carpool system before your event to ensure the elderly are picked up and taken home safely from the holiday event. Plan who is picking them up and returning them home before the time arrives.
- Assist seniors with understanding and using rideshare services such as Uber or Lyft. Services like GoGoGrandparent excel in arranging rides for seniors and older adults.
- Coordinate timings and rides with neighbors, family members, and church attendees attending the same gatherings.
- Schedule and book taxi services in advance for events that fall outside public transportation hours.
- Arrange a “ride buddy” to accompany and assist the elderly with public transportation travel to help navigate the journey.
- Speak to a community outreach program about providing transport services during the holiday season.
Helping Without Interfering
It’s essential to balance providing the necessary support and maintaining an elderly person’s independence and dignity. We want to be viewed as helpers, not meddlers.
Here are a few ways to achieve this delicate balance:
- Mutual Respect: Start any interaction from a place of respect. Prioritize their feelings, desires, and needs over your own. Be sure to ask their permission before making any drastic changes.
- Active Listening: Listen to their concerns, fears, and needs actively. Often, seniors will be more open to assistance when they feel respected and heard. Refusals to accept help often arise from a fear of losing independence. You can tailor your support to their needs when you listen to understand.
- Gradual Implementation: Make changes in small and incremental ways. Sudden, jerky alterations can be overwhelming. Gradually add support services or assistance into their existing routine without changing it altogether.
- Empower Them: Encourage them to take ownership over any aspects of their life they can. For example, if they can prepare a small meal in the microwave, let them do it. The sense of accomplishment and autonomy cannot be underestimated.
- Anonymous Aid: Some seniors are more likely to accept assistance if they think it’s from a remote stranger. Helpful gestures like having groceries delivered to their door or arranging for landscape maintenance and snow removal significantly impact them without making them feel dependent. Have the service send you the bill directly.
- Educate: Because of a lack of technology usage, some seniors aren’t aware of the services and support organizations available. Patiently explaining how these services could help them and where to research them is an excellent way to support their independence.
- Involve Them in Decisions: Most importantly, involve them in these discussions and decisions. This involvement lets them know they have value and control over their own lives. They may feel more receptive to support if they know they can decide whether to accept it.
Remember, providing support that respects their freedom and dignity is key. By carefully treading this path, you can enhance a senior’s holiday experience, ensuring they feel loved, valued, and supported.
Infographic: Empowering Seniors at Christmas
Share on Your Site With This Code:
<a href="https://www.grayingwithgrace.com/help-seniors-at-christmas/"><img style="width:100%;" src="https://www.grayingwithgrace.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/12/Empowering-Seniors-at-Christmas.png"></a><br>Design by: <a href="https://www.grayingwithgrace.com">Graying With Grace</a>
Supporting our elderly loved ones during Christmas goes beyond meeting physical needs or apparent tasks.
It involves ensuring their emotional and mental well-being, rekindling their joy, saving them from loneliness, and reminding them of their worth. Supporting seniors strengthens your relationship with them and might teach you valuable life lessons.
As you consider where you can best help, remember that even small gestures can substantially impact older adults. Be open-hearted, attentive, and willing to offer assistance. This holiday season, shine a light on their lives as they have illuminated yours.
With empathy, consideration, and some creativity, we can enhance the holiday experience for our treasured seniors. So, let’s work together to make it a truly joyful and loving season. Every act of kindness, no matter how small, is never wasted.
If you found this guide useful, please share it with your friends, family, and anyone you know who could benefit.
I’d love to hear your experiences, ideas, and thoughts, so don’t hesitate to comment below.
Because just as it takes a village to raise a child, it also takes a community to care for our elders.
Let’s make this Christmas season a festive celebration for all ages!